FOCUS ON RESILIENCE FACTORS
Repeated Failed Foster Placements
Impact of Trauma
When you live in a traumatic, violent environment, truth is whatever the perp needs it to be to accomplish whatever the perp is trying to achieve. This creates a situation where ones reality is not allowed to be real, therefore, the part of the brain that can differentiate between a truth and a lie never develops.
One in this environment will create fantasy or cling to people or objects (EXTERNAL SUPPORTS) to create and ground themselves in a reality they need to survive. Later on in life this will LOOK LIKE: lying, possessiveness, stealing, cheating and manipulation.
THESE ARE ALL SURVIVAL SKILLS and should be understood as such.
The Antidote
Build in more external supports in the persons life! What are those things/experiences/pets/plants/sense of spirituality where one can find safety outside of or in between times with a safe adult?
Understand the persons external supports currently and build on those instead of shame them- reframe the distraction as a passion!