Manipulation
Hidden Resilience:
Resourcefulness
Is learned when:
People do not have direct access to the resources they need to survive.
The drive behind the behavior:
Afraid of asking directly for what I need or want.
Steps to take to meet those needs:
Without shaming, help them identify the difference between wants and needs.
Identify safe people to ask.
Develop with them the words to ask directly.
Practice asking directly.
Repeat.