Lying (due to trying to solve a problem)
Hidden Resilience:
Determination & Creativity
Is learned when:
Reality is not allowed to be real.
The truth is what you need it to be to get the job done.
The drive behind the behavior:
Trying to solve a problem.
Steps to take to meet those needs:
Get to know your beliefs about lying.
Underneath our response to being lied to is an implicit belief… that truth is something that is either earned or owed.
Know which belief you hold or when someone lies to you, that belief will drive your actions without you knowing it.
Help them identify the problem.
Empathically reflect back to them the problem as they see it.
Collaboratively problem solve.
Use their creativity to help them develop a plan with concrete steps.
(NOTE: This process often needs to be repeated 6 or 7 times so that a new neuropathway can begin to grow.)