Defiance
Hidden Resilience:
The Courage to Challenge Power Over
Is learned when:
People’s boundaries are not respected.
The drive behind the behavior:
Unheard, inequity/injustice, and a need for caution.
Steps to take to meet those needs:
Predict, Practice and Plan B.
Give a 5-minute warning for transitions.
Connect the request/limit with safety.
Give clear, concrete descriptive vs. evaluative directions.
Give space (physical & emotional) for compliance.
Pay it forward - Tell them what you know they are going to do (that is positive).
Use a Success Calendar to record daily something they did to accomplish something in a positive way, made the world a better place, helped someone, etc.
Use Descriptive praise instead of Evaluative praise.